Dating help for kids
“You can love your father or mother and also care about a new person.It’s not wrong.” And it’s OK when children become attached to a significant other – if the relationship is serious, say Spector and Dr. “The other person can be an excellent role model,” says Spector.When Laura and Jeff Solomon were dating, they concocted chance meetings as a way to familiarize their kids.“We didn’t (say), ‘Hi, this is my boyfriend and his kids,'” Solomon says.“People disengage or emotionally separate at different points,” she says.“Women are more likely to emotionally separate from a marriage when they’re in it, so when the actual divorce occurs, that may be years after they emotionally separate.Terri Orbuch, professor at Oakland University, research professor at the University of Michigan Institute for Social Research and a family therapist.
It’s terrible when people date and get their kids all attached and the kids are thinking they’re going to be brother and sister and then you dump the guy. ’ One time we met at the gas station to follow each other and they’re like, ‘Didn’t you meet him at a gas station?
It’s a different game to date when you’re a parent and while there are no hard and fast rules, parents and experts agree on some guidelines – the least of which is, let them be ready before you are.
“No matter their ages, explain (to your children) why you’re dating and that no one will ever replace the other parent,” says Dr.
“It’s not good to introduce your children to a lot of different people,” says Steven Spector, Ph.
D., a West Bloomfield therapist and assistant professor of pediatrics and psychiatry at Wayne State University School of Medicine. The West Bloomfield mom of nine (seven of her own plus two stepsons) cringes about how many men her husband’s ex has traipsed through their boys’ lives.